Sex or something not really like it.

I am a passionate person.

Passionate about myself.
Passionate about what I like and follow
Passionate about my love.

I'm currently in a relationship where I know I love this person. I love being with her, talking to her. Yea, she frustrates the hell out of me sometimes...never enough to walk away.

I just find one major component lacking that has always been lacking in all of my long-term relationship. The lack of sex and passion.

It's not really just penetration (well there's none of that because that's another thing entirely). Just the lack of fire. I'm pretty sure every girl I'm dated has had the sexual appetite of a sloth. At times, it almost feels like I'm raping my girlfriend because she's just not into it.

IT'S BEEN 3.5 YEARS AND WE HAVE ONCE NEVER HAD SEX.

Head and an awkward attempt at anal is pretty much it. I know she has a lot of mental hangups about sex, but this is kind of redonklous. I'm trying to be nice and understanding, but I just want to be able to make love to my girlfriend. I want her legs wrapped around me, nails scratching, loud, moaning, I can smell her sex every once in a while. I know she loves me, but the lack of sexual intimacy is driving me up a wall.


I'm not sure what it is exactly. I know she just doesn't feel it mentally. Talking about sex drives her to tears because it stresses her out. I'm not sure what I can do about it when all I really want is to drive my cock into her. It's just...frustrating to only be restricted to a certain form(s) of expression.

Then I feel horrible because I know she's not doing this on purpose and whatever I can think of to try to relax her sexually always tend to backfire. Either she cums too quickly or just plan just says "I'm not in the mood." It ends up causing strain on other parts of our relationship because of the friction and the pent-up annoyance.


Why did I end up in love with the frigid woman....Humor me that someone.